Most of our adult relationship problems started before we could even spell the word ‘love’.
- Nowena Piispa
- Aug 4
- 1 min read
When a child clings desperately to a parent who keeps leaving, they grow up learning:
👉 “If I don’t hold on tight or control, I’ll lose love.”
That little one often becomes an adult who power trips — trying to keep control so they won’t feel abandoned again.
When a child is smothered by a parent who rescues every problem, they grow up learning:
👉 “I can’t trust myself, someone else has to fix it.”
That little one often becomes an adult who enables — keeping others dependent so they can feel needed.
See the thread? 🌿
Our early attachment and separation experiences don’t just stay in childhood — they echo into how we love, fight, parent, and even help.
The beautiful part?
Healing is possible.
When we see the pattern, we can choose differently.
We can give ourselves the security we didn’t get, and finally free others from the weight of our old wounds.
✨ You are no longer that child. You get to write a new story.
Which one resonates with you more — the clinger or the rescuer?
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