When a child clings desperately to a parent who keeps leaving, they grow up learning: 👉 “If I don’t hold on tight or control, I’ll lose love.” That little one often becomes an adult who power trips — trying to keep control so they won’t feel abandoned again. When a child is smothered by a parent who rescues every problem, they grow up learning: 👉 “I can’t trust myself, someone else has to fix it.” That little one often becomes an adult who enables — keeping others dependent