Couple Therapy Notes 101 Can the words “I love you” hurt? Sometimes, yes. Not because love is cruel — but because words can be used as tools rather than truth. Here are five ways “I love you” can wound, especially when it’s spoken without empathy, accountability, or emotional presence: 1️⃣ “I love you” is said… but care disappears. The words arrive on time, but respect, consistency, and tenderness are missing. Love is spoken, not lived. 2️⃣ “I love you” is used to silence y